Other peoples’ blues

Half empty

Four mornings a week I find myself in the presence of a lovely lady who does me a great favour saving me both time and money through her selfless generosity. She is the first person who I see and speak to on these days. Unfortunately she is also the world’s biggest pessimist, gloom-monger and doom sayer. In fact I’d go so far as to suggest that her glass is way less than half empty.

This puts me in the unenviable position of starting off each working day, not with a cheerful, sunny or inspirational ‘thought for the day’ but rather a dire, doom-laden prospectus on the unravelling of society, the hopelessness of the way our country is going and the traffic gridlock our town will surely face when they start building the new Sainsburys in a few weeks time.

Sometimes I am tempted to stick my fingers in my ears and, as the choon says, sing “La La La”. However, this would be extremely rude, ungrateful and frankly, out of character (I was after all brought up with some manners!).

My main strategy is to try and turn the conversation to something less gloomy as soon as a suitable chance presents itself. This doesn’t always work and sometimes I just don’t have the energy (its mostly quite early in the morning). As I have lately been aiming to live mindfully, enjoy the moment more and always think positive thoughts wherever it is humanly possible to do so, I’m finding this quite challenging. The weather isn’t helping.

So what do you do to stop yourself from having all your good karma zapped into oblivion? Answers on a postcard [or there’s also a thing called a comment thread – see below ;-)]

Linking to PoCoLo over at Verily Victoria Vocalises:

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9 thoughts on “Other peoples’ blues

  1. This lady sounds so down it is almost funny BUT I appreciate not at all funny when you have to put up with it on an unrelenting basis.

    I have made excuses on my kids’ behalf so that they did not have to get a lift home with someone else’s kind but really pessimistic mum. They find it really difficult to cope with.

    I can’t think of any other strategy than you have already tried – maybe just imagine me giving you a wry smile over her head.

    • I will absolutely try that Denise! She also has some very right wing un-pc opinions on things too which I am quite insulted by on behalf of strangers. And her driving is often erratic. But other than that its great! 8-/

  2. Ugh, I have someone in my life just like that and it’s incredibly draining. But what can you do? It’s engrained in them, you’re never going to change them. I do wonder whether – to a certain extent – if it’s an Irish thing? Maybe that’s a gross generalisation… I’m afraid I have no suggestions for you other than keep the head up and try to stay positive. Crap advice, sorry! Hopefully your venting might help you feel a bit better 🙂

    • Hmm, interesting about the Irish thing – this lady isn’t Irish but from the South East of England but maybe this is something to do with people from places where it rains a lot?! You’re absolutely right that we’ll never change them. I have to say that my general mood on any given day makes a difference – if I wake up in a good mood I find it much easier to deal with, I’m chattier and we sometimes have a bit of banter but if I’m feeling stressed/tired/running late etc. it becomes really aggravating which makes me feel very ungrateful!!

  3. Everyone has one of these in their lives. They server as a reminder that you have the ability to look at the bigger picture and to see the good things in life. Shame they have to come in such an annoying, energy-zapping form though, isn’t it??!!!

  4. Crikey! I used to be around someone like that! These days I would start commenting about people who are worse off than her – in a subtle way of course. Maybe she would get the message. I call these types of people ‘drainers’. Thank you for linking to PoCoLo x

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