Some people have a goal and they set their targets and never seem to take their eye from that sight, sometimes across months, sometimes years. I look at the way Reneé of Mummy Tries has pushed herself to get the book of her life (Become the Best You) written and published within what must have been one of the most challenging years (sleep deprivation anyone?) and I marvel. It takes a lot of self-belief to achieve something like that and it takes a lot of support
Goal setting seems to be a life strategy that allows people to continually feel that they are moving forwards to achieve something finite, something they can be proud of and cherish, then move on.
At the beginning of this year I read Gretchen Rubin’s Happiness Project and it is true to say that one of her key points involves setting yourself goals, both short and long term. I don’t really ‘do’ New Years Resolutions but back in January I wrote down a couple of lists of things I ideally wanted to achieve during the course of the year. Unfortunately I have fallen far short of a lot of my own ideals – I really imagined that I would have produced a whole bunch of crocheted Christmas ornaments by now, for example, but in reality, I haven’t even managed to grasp the simplest of stitches and shelved the dream of giving Attic 24 a run for her money in favour of more mundane pursuits like birthday party planning and some very basic baking.
Sometimes I really do have to wonder what my goals are, if any. I constantly feel constricted by the dual demands of parenting and family life.
I guess the best place to start now is by looking back through the year and taking away all the positives – what I have achieved as opposed to what I haven’t, what has gone right and the things that have made me feel fulfilled. Then, once the Christmas chaos is done and dusted it will be time to think about realistic goals – perhaps I’ll stick to one a month – each of which has the potential to be achieved within the time I have available (outside of the normal constraints of being a wife and mother).
- Finally found time to go for a couple of solo bike rides
- Planned, organised and threw two very lovely birthday parties for the boys
- Got over my fear of letting the kids loose with the craft supplies
- Sourced some Pinterest projects I’d had my eye on for a while and created my own versions
- Went self-hosted with the blog and set up this linky
- Managed to have one final term-time holiday fling with the family before JJ started school
- Improved my photography
- Had the most fun writing posts like this or this which I feel vindicate my decision to blog in the first place (along with counting lots of new faces/voices amongst a group of new friends I have discovered through this enterprise)
- And lastly, with the hubster, finally got our bathroom renovated.
What have you achieved this year?