It *does* get easier

I went to see my cousin and her children the other day with JJ and EJ. She has a two and a half year old and a seven month old. They are both gorgeous but the baby is adorable – such a happy little man!

We went to a local playground and then back to hers for pizza (and a sneaky glass of white for us mummies 😊).

At one point during our conversation she asked me to reassure her that it does get easier. To be honest she looks to me like she is breezing it but I guess that’s the myth of modern motherhood. Of course my immediate default response was to think about my current parenting challenges and try and convey what it might be like for her in five years time.

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The law of attraction?

I’ve written before about having a positive mental attitude (with all disclaimers for those who suffer with clinical depression/hormonal imbalance, etc.), and it’s a subject I regularly come back to. I think it’s even more important in times of adversity: when ‘bad’ things happen (things which you wouldn’t have chosen, or things which were completely out of your control) it’s important to remember that you have it in you to regroup and find the silver lining.

I recently went on Amazon Prime Video and I wanted to find a movie to watch which would fit my mood. It occurred to me that some of my favourite movies are ones which inspire me in some way, or convey a really universal truth about how to find happiness in life. Groundhog Day is a perfect example – not only is it a really funny film (Bill Murray’s best performance in my opinion) but it provides the ultimate message: that until you stop expecting good things to happen no matter what you’re like, or what you do, or how you treat others, you cannot move forwards towards real fulfilment – you have to make a change in yourself.

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Coping with the demands of parenthood

I assume that most people probably hear the phrase ‘high demand child’ and think ‘come on, aren’t all children demanding?’, and yes, I presume that most kids will have high expectations of their parents and want/need a lot of stuff done for them on a day to day basis, however, I believe that the way my eldest son, JJ, is hardwired means that he takes ‘demanding’ to another level.

The thing is, he’s always been like this – as a baby he had colic and cried non-stop so I could never switch off and think about anything else. As a toddler he was unable to play imaginative games on his own and didn’t much like TV so I couldn’t do what other people seemed to be able to do and pop him down in front of cbeebies for five minutes while I had a quick shower or tune out with an hour cuddling up and watching a Disney movie (he’s still not much of a one for feature length movies).

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The Truth about… #97

Welcome back to The Truth about…

It’s been a while I know! It was never my intention to stop blogging or stop running this linky, but for whatever reason, life got in the way – I lost my motivation, I lost my nerve, but I never lost the desire to continue blogging so I hope you will all forgive me for my absence and still like to return and link up anything recent you may have written that is characterised by those rose-coloured glasses poking out of the nearest bin.

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Single parenthood and loneliness

It’s been 13 months now for me as a single parent. For the first five months my children and I lived with my parents and that came with it’s own challenges (namely 400 miles a week of commuting just to do the school run). Since September 2016 the three of us have lived back in our home town in a two bedroom rented house. The children spend the night with their father anywhere from once, twice or three nights a week depending on his work schedule and availability and my one proviso is that the children are home with me on Tuesdays and Wednesdays when there are after school clubs and activities and I try and maintain a constant mid-week routine.

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The Truth about… #96

Welcome back to The Truth about…

Last time saw the usual great variety of subject matter proving that speaking the truth can be both beautiful, hilarious, devastating and poignant. There was everything from saying no to your kids to the challenges of a child’s sick day; miscarriage to unnecessary judgement and criticism of other parents.

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Love Hate

love hate: boys-new-trainers

I remember when EJ was first born and the seemingly massive gap of almost three years between the two boys; wondering how it might ever be possible for them to one day be friends and partners in crime. The difference between a baby and a pre-schooler is massive – their needs so varied. Yet within a relatively short period of time EJ has grown up to the point where he is now a school boy himself at the tender age of four – and both boys now attend the same school two years apart.

I am their primary carer so I spend the most amount of time with them and I get to witness the whole gamut of their sibling relationship – from love to hate and back again.

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